How come early in my teenage years I know exactly what I wanted to do, what I wanted both personally and professionally and how to get there, and now, I am so lost and confused. There are times where I feel like a four year old that lost in a supermarket, with everyone rushing past and no matter where I walk to it all looks the same and I can't find a way out.
It seems like from people i've talked to and know, that there are two very different groups people in their 20's. The group that I include myself in the 'just want is going on' group, where one or more of these apply;
- Confused
- Unemployed
- Working in a job that doesn't interest you or are just in it to try and reach the job you're actually wanting to do
- Single (either happy to be or not)
- Renting a house with not so great housemates
- Or living with your parents
The other group however;
- Successful job
- A job that they have reached for and maybe not the position they want but they are on their way to getting it
- Engaged, Married
- Having kids
- Own House
- Settled
Now either of these groups are that bad and i'm sure there are people that fit in to both groups which would be a great thing, not that being in just one of these groups are a bad thing and many people will be going through exactly the same thing.
For me though, I still don't know what I really want to do with my life, so i'm trying a number of new and old things, moving all over the place, going to new places but then when I look on social media, there are people that are getting engaged, married, having kids, have got the job they have always wanted and these are the people I went to school with. I'm not saying I want that I want all these things, well maybe I do but not right now. Right now I just want to be settled.
You soon realise yours 20's aren't want to expected them to be but that's alright. We are all our own person and it's us that make something happen, we have our own goals about what we want for our life and we are all different.
In your 20s its time for change, and change again. Most will go through many rubbish jobs, will get a bit too drunk and realise they aren't a student any more, you won't be able to handle that much alcohol and lack of sleep as you once were just a few years ago.You will lost friends that you thought would be there when you're both old and grey believing you would still be the same, you'll make new friends that are just as confused as you. Exercise, the thing that you used to do occasionally or do through stages of doing becomes something you have to think about often because all that junk food you used to eat and didn't make any difference to your body in your teens will change. You go through being poor, paying off debts that you now realise you can easily get in to, not being as social as you once were, although saying that if you're single, no kids, not a stressful job that keeps you up at all times of the day. Go ahead and drink, be social.
These isn't for everyone and i'm in no way a professional, this is just me opinion, but the best thing about being in my 20's although there are a lot of down points and things that could go wrong its the time to make mistakes, have regrets not about the things that you haven't done but the things that you have, not bad ones, well I mean things like, going out drinking far too much and regretting it for a few days later. It's really in the time to change, change jobs, change where you live, who you talk to, who your friends are, change how you push yourself, go bungee jumping, do things that scare you. If you never do it then you most likely won't ever do it and it might help you find out what and how you want to live your life.
Discover who you are!!
